Following the first day of our Circuit Assembly last week, I had a large group of the normal people over for a BBQ at my place. It's a decent setup - I provide the venue, they provide the food. The night before, Dezzy had her graduation from college. She wasn't able to make it but her husband, Joel, was there. During the course of the evening, Joel calls up Dezzy to check on her and see how she's doing. He ends the phone call by telling her that he loves her.
"Must be nice to be able to say that to somebody," I mused aloud.
Another attendee, Tim, says without missing a beat, "Ah, but it would be even better to hear that from somebody else!"
Touché, Tim. Touché.
Isn't that the truth of the whole matter? Not just the ability to verbally communicate or reassure of absolute affection but to also have it returned? Yes, my friends, love is a truly awesome thing to experience. In my own estimation, the ability that we as free moral agents have to express and experience it between ourselves is what makes us closest to Jehovah. After all, if "God is love," and love "is a perfect bond of union," would you not agree that the desire to share love in as many forms as possible is vital to our existance? (1 Jo 4:8; Col 3:14) The capacity that we have been granted by Jehovah to love all of humankind (agape) our brothers and sisters in the congregation (philia), our parents and children (storge) and our mates (eros) is a small glimpse as to what perfection is like. Surely, every person on the planet likely desires to love and be loved by somebody else.
But one of the main problems that we have, on top of every challenge this world puts upon us, is that love - pure, honest, and lasting love - is so very rare. And by its rarity, it is made precious and it is cherished all the more so when it finally comes to fruition. Enduring to that point can be a trial for many who seek it, though. I know personally that it complicates things others may not consider or take for granted. The desire to love and be loved can do terrible things to the mind and body - destroy appetite, steal sleep, and even create stressful anxiety.
I had been wondering about this for many years, as I have walked with steps uncertain in life. Making decisions to allow greater ability at the expense of flexibility and vice versa. The thought of putting the entire ordeal into statistical and numerical terms had always seemed like a good idea, but, until recently, had not happened. Over the past few weeks I have been collecting, interpreting, and extrapolating data in this regard, the culmination of which was a spreadsheet that I have on my computer now, outlining the probabilities of a person existing that fits into a demographical spectrum and then also meets certain basic criteria witin that demographic. The results, while troubling, appear to be accurate to the best of my knowledge. It is my intent to share those with you, kind reader, in the even that you may seek similar answers to similar questions in your own due time.
I am freely putting this information out for public scrutiny and commentary, and will not be filtering the remainder of posts in this series. Please let me know if you feel there is something I am omitting, miscalculating, misreporting, or misinterpreting. Your feedback is a vital part to this process.
May Jehovah continue to be your tower in all that you do. Love is eternal.